Do you have any family members who are well-meaning but driving you crazy on the subject of your job search? Are they giving you opinions whether you want them or not? Are they making you feel defensive, stressed, and frustrated that they won’t just support you? This can be especially difficult if there are children or other parents who are involved.
WHAT ANNOYING THINGS CAN FAMILY MEMBERS SAY?
✓ You should have a job by now. Why is it taking you such a long time? (That is particularly difficult because you are wondering the same thing. Why is it taking so long?)
✓ You have nothing else that is more important to do! Are you really working hard to find a new job?
✓ You are being too picky. You should just take the first job offer that you receive.
✓ I told you it would be a problem with student debt if you went back to school. Well, now it has happened!
✓ You don’t both need to have a job. You will do just fine if you become more frugal and watch your pennies.
✓ I can’t take care of your kids forever. I am trying to help you, but I am exhausted.
✓ You knew that I thought you couldn’t really afford your fancy house. And now you might lose it because you can’t keep up with the mortgage.
✓ I taught you as a child to have a “rainy day” fund. You didn’t want to do it then, and I don’t think you’ve done that as an adult.
✓ I cannot and will not deplete my retirement savings.
Depending on your family dynamics, this can go on and on. Family members might have your best interests at heart, but they can clearly add to your stress.
I am definitely not a psychologist or family counselor. Maybe you can get access to one through your healthcare coverage. But you need to keep your lines of communication open about your job search however you can.
However, If you think some job search or interview coaching might be helpful, there is no charge for a consultation. Go here to schedule a call on our calends.